Mommy Meltdowns

Have you ever seen a young child just have a complete meltdown?  You know the drill, sobbing, screaming, maybe flailing about and just uncontrollable.  You expect that from time to time with a 2 year old, but not from a mommy right.  We are always supposed to be cool, calm and collected and always have patience and compassion right?!  I wish I could do that, but sometimes I find myself acting like a 2 year old.  It just seems like some days the kids just pinpoint every raw nerve you have and jump on it over and over again.  It’s been one of those kinds of weeks for me, and I have a found myself screaming, pitching fits, and even at one point laying on the floor sobbing.  I know, I’m not to proud of this.  Sometimes I just lose control, and I know even in the midst of my tantrum that it is not the right way to act, but when you’ve nicely reminded them to pick something up 3 times before and when they don’t do it and it finally gets destroyed by a younger sibling and has to go in the trash instead of the shelf it just tends to get me riled up.  Why can’t they just listen!  Why can’t I just listen….  I’m better than I used to be, but far, far from where I need to be and I just keep praying and asking forgiveness from God and my children and try better to keep my cool the next time that burning frustration arises in me.  He’s still working on me.

I’m So Excited!!!

It’s 4:30 in the morning and I can’t sleep because I’m too excited about what God has in store for my family!  I’m dreaming of a new house and giving to others and going on missions trips and building my business.  In case you haven’t heard, God has brought Arbonne to our family.  I am so excited about starting my Arbonne business!  A wonderful friend of mine shared Arbonne with me and told me about the opportunities with Arbonne and at first I was so happy that she had found something to help her family, but knew it wasn’t for me.  The more that I started meeting the wonderful people who had their lives changed by selling Arbonne the more I became intrigued.  I’m not about to sell a product that I wouldn’t use or don’t believe in, but I’ve been in the business for a month now and have seen people who have been helped by these products for myself and have heard many other stories about the products and the business making people’s lives better.  I’m just so excited to be a part of such a caring, giving and Jesus loving team!

While this is a bit of an advertisement for my business of course, I really am just bubbling over with excitement and want to share it with the whole world and I just want to help people who are struggling financially both by giving but also by showing them how this could work for them too!  I did not take on the new adventure lightly and without prayer and I have been praying for my business and my clients and for my future team members already.

Like my friend who signed me up said I feel like I can dream again!  You know, all those things that you would like to do with your life, but just know would never be possible.  The top income earner went from having to ask her church to help pay her bills to building orphanages in Africa!  Don’t tell me this is not possible!  With God all things are possible.  Though my husband finally has a steady job that is enough to take care of us, it just wasn’t enough to really pursue some of the things we dreamed of doing.  Like having a house on the lake, or handing someone who needed to pay their house payment the money without having to blink twice.

I homeschool my children so this is something I can do on evenings and weekends and still be with my children!  And it’s so much fun too!  When I finally decided to go for this I figured that since there were no start-up costs and they walked beside you until you were ready to venture out your own, I’ve really lost nothing even if I don’t make it and I’ve got to meet some new people, have fun and make new friends!

This is going to take hard work too, but I’ve never been afraid of a little hard work.  I’ve always dreamed of and felt called to the mission field, and want to be able to take my children on missions trips but never knew how that would be possible, but knew that if that was what God planted in my heart that He would make a way for it to happen.  I believe this just might be the way He has provided.

I do want to extend an invitation to any of you who think they might want to pursue this adventure with me.  If you have been looking for something to help your family there is no limit.  This business is for those who want to make some extra pocket change to those who want to bring in a full income.  If I have intrigued you even a little bit feel free to contact me and I would love to meet with you (even if you are out-of-state) and tell you more about it.  I know this business is not for everyone and if you don’t like what you hear then that’s no problem.  God has an individual plan for you.  I just have seen with my own eyes what this business has done for other ordinary people like me and I want so much to use this business to help others too!  Like I said if you have any questions or just want to know more let me know.  I have a new favorite quote I read the other day.  “Indecision is the greatest thief of opportunity.” (Jim Rohn)

To God be the glory!  Jeremiah 29:11

Tip For the Day: How to Peel an Orange

As a mom with small children I’m always looking for convenient ways to get my kids to eat more fruits and vegetables.  My problem though is that it can take so long to get the veggies peeled or the fruit pitted.  My kids like oranges, but I didn’t like peeling them and if I cut it up with the peel still on, they just basically sucked out the juice and wasted the rest of the orange.  I found a quick and easy way to get the orange into bite sized pieces.  The rest of you may have already known this, but if I find a more convenient way to do something I like to share it.  So here’s my technique for cutting and peeling an orange.

 

If you have any quick and easy tips for preparing fresh fruits or veggies feel free to share.  I’m always on the look out for time saving tips!

From Prison To Palace

Today I’m going to preach a mini sermon.  I was reading my Bible and I thought this was totally cool.  Joseph went straight from prison to the palace!  He didn’t work his way up, God promoted him.  Think about it.  He was stuck in prison with no hope of ever getting out.  Being falsely accused of trying to rape the governor’s wife was a sentence with no hope, but despite his hopeless situation he stayed faithful.  He probably would have been ecstatic just to get out of jail and live a normal life, but God had much bigger plans.  God promoted him straight from prison to being second in command!!!

The passage I read this morning was Psalm 105.  It tells the story of God promising the land of Canaan to Israel and the journey to get there.  God promised the land to Jacob (Israel) when he had a small family that could never overtake a land so that might have seemed like a silly or impossible promise, but God had a plan.  He sent Joseph to Egypt and there through Joseph the Israelites found a home where they could stop wandering and there they flourished and began to multiply.  But, you know what?  They got comfortable and were not really interested in God’s promise because they were happy where they were at.

Sometimes we need a little push don’t we to move away from our comfort zone.  The push for the Israelites was the Egyptians making them slaves.  This made them uncomfortable and ready to move on to God’s promised land.  The Egyptians didn’t get off the hook though for oppressing God’s people.  When the Israelites left Egypt they were a few million people.  Losing that many workers!  Talk about crashing the economy!  Not only that, the Egyptians were left devastated by plagues, crops and livestock destroyed, and even every firstborn child dead.  They were ruined.  God did not let them go unpunished for their crimes against His people.

It may have taken a long time by our human standards, but God did not forget His promise and despite the Israelites stubbornness that forced them on a few detours, they eventually made it to Canaan, the land flowing with milk and honey, that God had promised them.

If you feel discouraged that things are not taking the route you had planned, or if you are feeling like you are under attack, rest assured that God will keep His promise.  Even if you have made some bad decisions that have landed you off track, God can use that detour to bring you back around to the place where He wants you to be.  We just have to put absolute trust in Him that He sees the big picture and will make a way where there seems to be no way.  He can bring you straight out of prison and up to the palace where a child of the King belongs.  Take heart, God really, really cares about you and loves you and will help you no matter what and just like any loving parent only wants what’s best for you!  Now that’s exciting!

 

PS – The month of May was crazy, hopefully I will be able to post more soon, including all our adventures over Memorial Day weekend!

My Sarah Bear

Sarah is my 16 month old.  She is the sweetest thing you ever did see, but she is a handful!  All she does is go, go, go.  She has been running since she was about 10 months old.  She already says just about as many words as her 2 1/2 year old brother.  She cannot sit still for anything.  She thinks she’s much bigger and older than she really is and wants to do the same things everyone else does.

She has no fear.  She will climb up and on anything she can get to.  A few days ago she pushed right through the screen on the window and went right through.  Gabriel ran to tell me that she had fallen through the window and I found her outside, scared and reaching up toward the window wondering how she would get back in.  She didn’t get hurt thankfully, but these are the kind of things that this spunky little gal does!  I mean I can’t watch her every single minute of every single day you know!  I’m afraid that she thinks her name is SARAH!!!!  Man I love her to pieces though.  Her smile will pardon nearly any mischief she gets into.

Yesterday she thought it would be a good idea to paint the table with her brother’s milk and put crackers and cheese in her other brothers milk glass and then smear soggy crackers and cheese into the milk painting.

Today, well, when she drew all in the book with a pencil, ok, my fault, a pencil should not have been where she could reach it, though with as much and as well as she climbs just about nothing or nowhere is safe.  When she drew on the laminate floor in her bedroom with a crayon (where the heck did she get a crayon!!!), me fairly calmly “no, we color on paper not floors!”  Next she decided to help by stacking her brothers and sisters three cups together while they were full of juice!  Finally at dinner while I was sitting down to eat my lukewarm soup, Hannah comes in to say “mom, look what Sarah’s doing!”  I came in to find her on top of my bed with an open and now empty bottle of olive oil!  Thankfully a small one, but it was completely full.  She was covered in oil from top to bottom as well as my pillow, blankets and mattress.  AAAHHH!!  SA-RAH!!!!  Did any of you every watch the Little Foot movies when you were little?  I feel like I’m Mr. Triceratops yelling at his Cera!

My goodness I love this little girl and I wouldn’t trade her or her personality for anything in the world because I know she is just the way God made her and she has the character traits that He gave her for a reason.  She gives the best hugs and kisses and nosy’s and is just so adorable I want to eat her up, but man does she keep me busy and on my toes!

Dear Sarah – I love you to pieces just the way you are, but I wouldn’t argue if you would slow down just a minute and not spill or break or empty or dump out or tear up or draw on anything every once in a while!  Thanks. – A tired, but very happy to be your Momma

So Blessed

I know it’s been a long time since my last post.  I’ve just been crazy busy and will be the rest of this month so my posts may be sporadic.

Today due in part to my busyness and truthfully partially due to my laziness I am out of groceries and won’t be able to get more until tomorrow (unless I want to go at 10pm tonight which I don’t!).  I actually had to wash a dish by hand!  I joke that this is against my religion.  I do not like to wash dishes by hand at all, but I’m out of dishwasher detergent.  I’m out of several other things as well that are not necessary, but make life so convenient and it really makes me quite grateful.  My fridge is bare but not empty.  My kids are having Ramen noodles and fruit cups today but they are not hungry.  I’m out of juice, but I have tea bags and sugar to make tea for us to drink and have plenty of running water at my disposal that I can drink any time I’m even a little bit thirsty.  Wow.

We live in such a blessed land.  I am so blessed to have all the modern conveniences like washers and dryers and dishwashers and microwaves and grocery stores and cars and as you know the list goes on.  I may be out of fresh groceries but I have stores of canned and frozen food in my cabinets and freezer.  We may be juggling one vehicle, but we still have a car to drive.  How many times have I looked in my cabinet and said ‘I have nothing to eat’ when that is simply not true.  How many times have I looked in my closet and said ‘I have nothing to wear’ with a whole closet full of clothes staring me back in the face.  It may not be anything that I am interested in eating or anything that I’m wanting to wear, but I have them nonetheless and for that I am grateful.

There are so many people around the world that would love to eat that can of peas or chicken noodle soup in the cabinet (or the leftovers you’ve been eating on for 2 days) or wear that shirt that you’ve worn hundreds of times in the past 10 years.  There are people who would say I am so blessed just because I have water to drink not to mention to wash my hands with when they get the tiniest bit dirty or flush and indoor toilet with or even enough to spare to turn on the sprinkler and let the kids play away.  Wow again.

I know times get hard and sometimes bills start to pile up and there seems to be no end, or sickness goes on and on.  Truthfully when I am in times like that I struggle with being grateful!  We have so so so much to be thankful for though.  Instead of looking behind at everything that we don’t have, let’s try to look forward focusing on the things that we do have.  If it is something that we have no control over then we need to let it go and let God take control and just praise Him for the blessings He’s already given us and for the glory that He will bring out of your current situation.  This is not easy.  It’s easier for some reason to focus on the negative than the positive.  That’s flesh I guess.

Be blessed today and I leave you a couple of my favorite promises from the Word.

Psalm 37:25 – Once I was young, and now I am old.  Yet I have never seen the godly abandoned or their children begging for bread.

Luke 6:31-33 – “So don’t worry about these things, saying, ‘What will we eat? What will we drink? What will we wear?’ These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.

Relieve Stress: Release Control

Releasing control.  Isn’t that a tough one!  People literally die and go to hell because they do not want to release control of their lives to God.  But life is so much simpler if we do!  I myself am a bit of a control freak.  No one can do it just the way that I can therefore I want to do it myself so that it is done right, but it is impossible for me to do everything so I always feel stressed out and feel like nothing is getting done!!  It’s a never-ending circle.  I even struggled with handing over the steering wheel to my husband (who probably is a better driver to be honest).  How many women can amen me on that one!  Giving up control has been a long and ongoing process for me in which my wonderful husband has been the one to urge me and support me in letting go.  He is my hero.

Since I am a stay at home mom at this point in my life the focus of this post is going to be how I have released control of household chores to my children (now 6, 4, 2 and 1).  My children actually love to help me, but sometimes it is hard to give up a chore to them because it usually takes twice as long as it would take me and is done half as good as I would do it but it is one hundred times better than it not getting done which is what was happening because I simply didn’t have the time or energy to get it done.

One of the first places my wonderful hubby encouraged me to let go was laundry.  I could never conquer Mt. Laundry and still struggle with getting the laundry put away.  I could keep it washed and dried with no problem, but getting it all folded and put away, that was another story.  Lenard asked me why I wasn’t letting the kids help me fold laundry.  Well, duh, they won’t do it right!  With his encouragement I now sort the laundry and except for the smallest two everyone (including hubby) folds and puts away their own clothes.  The older two also help with towels and wash cloths.  Is it hard for me when I get into the linen closet and see the hand towels quarter-folded instead of tri-folded?  You bet!  My four year old daughter’s drawer is a mess, but the clothes are in a drawer and not all over my bedroom floor, a vast improvement.

I have recently relinquished putting the dishes away to my oldest and though sometimes the plastic bowls are not stacked the way I would stack them they are at least in the cabinet and not in the dishwasher (and yes sometimes I can’t stop myself from going back later and fixing it, I’m a work in progress).  My kids clean the bathroom mirrors and the sink and they load and unload the washer and dryer.  Remember parents we are training our children to be adults.  I’ve seen too many adult children who are in their forties and still haven’t grown up.  Let them be kids and play, but let them help too even if it’s inconvenient!  Taking a little extra time now can save you a lot of time later.  My 6 year old even helps me pour the drinks sometimes, something I was a little afraid of letting him try but he does just fine with (actually my 2 year old poured himself and his brother a drink a few days ago and did just fine).

Like I said before.  This is really hard for me.  I am a control freak and delegation is not something I’m good at, but with Lenard and the Lord’s help I am realizing that it is better to have quarter-folded hand towels than to stay up until one in the morning doing it myself and be a grouchy momma the next day.  The time will come when I won’t have my kiddos around and I’m pretty sure that I will look back and be glad that I spent time with them instead of looking back and being glad that my house was in perfect order.

I encourage you if you are stressed out and feel like you have more on your plate than you can accomplish to ask for help and give up control when you can.  This is of course goes for all areas of life.  At work, church and most importantly releasing control of our lives to our loving Heavenly Father who only has our best interest in mind anyway.  Why is this so hard?  I don’t know why, but I know that it is and it is a growing process and with growing comes growing pains, but at the end of it all our lives will be so much better and less stressed for it.  Good luck!