I’ve been seeing a lot about this month being Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. Yesterday, October 15th was Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day.
Our family too knows the grief of losing an unborn baby. I didn’t really talk about it much, just with my closest friends and family. It was just too hard to talk about. The pain was just too deep. Though I still miss that baby that would have been born last month, my wonderful Heavenly Father has brought healing and comfort. Losing an unborn baby is hard and it is a loss and I encourage any of you who have gone through this to allow yourself to grieve this loss. What a comfort though to know that that baby gets to grow up in Heaven with Jesus never knowing loss or pain or sadness. Also, knowing that one day if you have accepted Jesus as Lord, you will get to see that precious child!
I can’t help during this time also to think of all the precious babies that have been lost to abortion. I just felt led to say that if any of you reading have lost a baby to abortion that there is healing for you as well. Our Heavenly Father does not treat anyone differently. If you will come to Him and ask for forgiveness, He will forgive, forget and bring healing for you as well.
Some of you may also have lost a baby after it was born. My heart goes out to you. I can’t even fathom the pain you must have been through. I pray that God will heal your heart and help you to live in this world until you are able to be reunited some day.
When you lose a baby before it is born, there is no grave to visit, no memorial, sometimes no good closure. If you have been through this and are having trouble bringing closure try making a little memorial for your little person. Maybe a letter, maybe a journal entry. If you have an ultrasound picture maybe frame it, or maybe even make a little grave. Whatever it might be that helps you bring closure. Don’t feel silly. Then pray and God will bring comfort and help you to move past the hurt. Though we will never forget the little ones that should have been, there is healing in Jesus name. God bless.
Luke 4:18 [Words of Jesus] The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he hath anointed me to preach the gospel to the poor; he hath sent me to heal the brokenhearted, to preach deliverance to the captives, and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty them that are bruised.
Psalm 139:13-16 You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it. You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb. You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.
ps – a good book to read – Heaven is for Real by Todd Burpo