In case you missed the first few posts of this blog, I wanted to put these two posts on their own page so they did not get lost in the jumble. Thanks for reading! (As of Oct 2015 we have six children ages 10, 7, 6, 4, 2, & 4 months)
“Children are a blessing and a gift from the LORD.” Psalm 127:3 CEV
I am a mom of four ages 6, 3, 2 and 1. I did not “plan” my family this way, but God did. I have always wanted children since I can remember, but I was pretty set on the number that I wanted. God had something else in mind though. (I want to be very honest in this blog so that maybe through my struggles others might learn or be encouraged.)
My husband and I waited for 4 years before having children while we were finishing college. I have never liked birth control, but saw it as a necessary evil. After all, having children is not an easy task. I was working full-time when my first was born and had to return to work. My husband quit his job and was the stay at home parent while he worked on his Master’s degree. I went back on birth control after our first child and we planned for the right time for the second child. After the second child was born I felt a strong urge from God not to resume birth control. I did for a short period of time, but eventually gave in to His nudgings.
The conversation went something like this:
– Do you trust me?
– Of course I do, but right now we are struggling financially, I’m having to go back to work part-time when my baby is only 6 weeks old, Lenard is in college, our house is too small, our car is too small!!!
– Do you really trust me?
– Yeeeessss, but . . .
– Do you trust me?
– (Deep breath and a little fear) Yes.
My husband and I discussed it and felt it was really what WE were supposed to do and we haven’t turned back or regretted it since!
Our 2nd, 3rd and 4th children were born in 2008, 2009 and 2010. Not particularly easy pregnancies either especially in the last trimester! I kind of think God was trying to see if we really meant it! I absolutely can not imagine life without any of my children and I thank God every day for the blessings that He has entrusted us with.
Is it easy? No way! But it sure is fun! My husband is in the military and often has to be gone for a week or two (thankfully not more than that in his particular field), and I am homeschooling my oldest as well so there are a lot of challenges to face. I have to say that some of them I handle pretty well I think, but probably more often I crash and burn and have to try again. My hubby is out-of-town right now and let me tell you, to not have him walk through the door and rescue me at the end of the day is really hard. (I admire all of you who are single moms. You are stronger women than me. I don’t know how you do it, but I guess you do what you have to right?!) Without the help and guidance of my Heavenly Father I don’t know what I would do. “If He brings you to it, He will guide you through it!”
Well, as I am very busy and easily distracted (squirrel – where was I?), my posts will probably be a little sporadic. My goal is to post at least once a week. I appreciate any comments and feedback as long as they are appropriate and have no foul language. May God bless you all. Thanks for reading!
I wanted to re-visit my first post and further explain a few things. I don’t want you to think that I am condemning anyone who doesn’t want to take the same path as we do! Like I said this is the path that WE felt like the Lord led US down. I believe that every persons walk with the Lord is a personal one and that they should let Him direct their lives and should not try to copy what anyone else is doing. We did not come to this decision flippantly. We prayed and studied the Bible before deciding this was the path God was leading us.
There are several Scripture verses that further confirmed to Lenard and I that this is what we were supposed to do. All throughout the Bible children are a sign of blessing and wealth and are welcomed by Jesus. We couldn’t find anywhere in the Word where it said blessed is the man with 2 children! The very first chapter in the Bible we are commanded to be fruitful and multiply (Genesis 1:28). I know many would argue that was a different time and that the world is overpopulated and we are destroying the world with our “carbon footprints”, but my Bible says Jesus (The Word – John 1:14) is the same yesterday, today and forever. (Hebrews 13:8).
Do you remember the story of Jacob and Rachel and how Laban tricked him into marrying Leah first? Since Leah was the unloved wife do you know how God showed favor on her? By giving her children! God blessed her with 5 children when Rachel was not able to have any at that time! (Genesis 29:31) Rachel was so desperate for children that she gave her servant to Jacob so that she could give him a child. That’s how Jacob ended up with 12 sons because Leah and Rachel were competing to try to give their husband the most children!
That is unfortunately not how children are viewed often in this day and age. They are noisy, expensive, you have to make sacrifices and give up ‘things’ to provide for them. What people don’t realize is the joy that they bring to your lives that make those ‘things’ undesirable anyway! My Bible says that children are a heritage, a reward even, and a happy man’s quiver will be full of children! (Psalm 127:3-5) I could give so many more example throughout the Bible where children are considered blessings from the Lord and to be barren a curse.
I love the story in the New Testament where several mothers brought their children to see Jesus. The disciples told them to leave and to not waste Jesus’ time with them but Jesus rebuked them and told them to let the children come! (Matthew 19:14, Mark 10:14, Luke 18:16) I like to picture Jesus laughing and playing with them. Maybe tickling them and listening to their silly stories and to them asking Him to heal their boo-boo’s. The fact that this story is in 3 of the 4 Gospels says to me that it was pretty important to God!
The point that I want to make with all of this is to encourage you to not be conformed to the pressures and ideas of this world, but look to God’s Word and pray about what He would have you to do with your life and family. If you feel God urging you to trust Him with the size of your family be bold and take a leap of faith. You will probably get a few people telling you that you are crazy, but if you are doing what God asked you to do, I guarantee that you will never regret it.